Helping your child's educational development | I am a parent or carer of a child with ADHD

Choosing a secondary school

You may have a choice of secondary school and choosing the right one can be a big decision. It is something that all parents (and children) find difficult, even without having to think about ADHD.

The following will help you make the most informed choice.

Remember that your local school with the best exam results or highest OFSTED (Office for Standards in Education, Children’s Services and Skills) rating may not be the best school for your child. School league table positions do not show whether your child will receive the best support or be happy there.

An ADHD-friendly school is likely to have a caring atmosphere, a good support system for children who are having problems and experience of children with ADHD. So, take a closer look at the schools in your area for these qualities.

A SENCO is a Special Educational Needs Coordinator, a teacher with specific training, whose job is to provide extra help and support for children with special educational needs. Aim to make an appointment to see the SENCO at the school and make an assessment of how ADHD is supported in that school.

*or equivalent position if situated outside of England

Your local ADHD support group may be able to put you in touch with other parents of children with ADHD who are already at local secondary schools. This way you may be able to benefit from their experience.

Parents (and children) can find it useful to visit the chosen secondary school for practice runs, so the child does not feel as anxious and can visit their future classrooms and meet their teachers.

Questions to ask

These are the kind of questions to ask when you visit the school or meet the head of year, form tutor or SENCO:

Are there other children with ADHD in the school, and what experience do you have with them?
What methods do you use to help children with ADHD?
Who would be my point of contact in relation to my child’s ADHD?
How will the school know if my child has/hasn’t taken their medication?
What extra help will my child be eligible for?
Are there any resources and equipment available such as the use of a dictating machine, computer, etc?
Can school information (such as newsletters and notifications of events) be emailed home?
Will teachers provide a second set of books for homework to be kept at home?
Will my child require extra time in exams and how will this be assessed?
Are there children with ADHD in the school who have entered sixth form?
How/who can I contact at the school by email if my child is likely to have or has had a bad day?
What processes are there to help parents know what homework their child should be doing, e.g. homework diaries or online homework diaries?

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Practical tips for helping your child manage at school

School creates many challenges for children with ADHD, but with patience and a good plan, your child can thrive in the classroom. As a parent, you can work with your child and their teacher to put practical strategies into place to promote learning both inside and out of the classroom. With the right support, these approaches can help your child meet their learning challenges and experience success at school.

Other parents of children with ADHD have found it useful to provide their child’s teachers with a ‘one page’ description of their child. This could include their barriers to learning, strategies to support and some tips that teachers should know to help them understand and get the best out of your child. Teachers understand that it helps to get to know the child’s personality and how he or she learns.

An example template that you can complete is provided in the Resources section of this website.

Consider the following ways to help your child succeed

There’s no substitute for parents understanding their child’s mind and communicating this directly to teachers. A child needs an advocate after a diagnosis of ADHD
Always aim to work collaboratively with your child’s teacher, with the goal of creating a relationship that will support your child
If teachers seem to struggle with your child, then do meet them individually after school to help them understand your child better and avoid triggers for bad behaviour. Other parents have found this works really well and behaviour improves once the teacher understands your child better
Seating arrangements in class are important. Children with ADHD work best with fewer distractions – usually seated toward the front of class at the side and not near doorways, windows or the back of the room. They also work better alongside children who are less distracted and more attentive
Let teachers know your child’s best learning style: visual, auditory, kinaesthetic (learning by doing physical activities)
Consider talking with your child’s teacher about having a home-to-school notebook for quick comments on a daily basis and easy communications

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General tips for life that can also help at school

Encourage creativity in your child as an outlet for impulsiveness
Don’t say or do things that will make your child feel badly about their way of doing things
Set your child up to make progress on something that matters to them. This builds confidence and motivation
Create a predictable schedule at school and at home. An important part of that schedule is getting enough sleep. Get your children into bed early, whenever possible
Give warnings about upcoming transitions from one activity to another
Big tasks become much easier when broken down into small steps – especially homework
Monitor your child’s progress and give feedback often. Give positive feedback when it is deserved and keep looking for positives to reinforce, not negatives
All children need escape valves. Try to bring some physical activity into anything they are doing
Sit side by side with your child rather than in front of them. Quite often children with ADHD don’t like talking directly face to face. Car journeys are sometimes a good way to connect with your children, but spending time together, anywhere, is very important
Above all, look for positive reinforcement at every opportunity. If they receive more praise your child will work towards being better. Remember that negative responses rarely work well

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